In February 2017 we launched a new page to help families identify potential twins. This listing is based on common features such as same finding date, same location, same birth date, same physical descriptions, and compatible orphanage assigned names. The data is derived from our orphanage data books by a group of families from each of the orphanages, as well as other records. You can peruse the list under the "Birth Parent Info" tab above.
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June 11, 2016: The following message was sent to us by the birth mother, addressed to the adoptive family:
“Please forgive my sudden appearance. I understand you and your family might need time to make a decision, and need time to talk about this with the whole family.
"But I would like to let you know that I am not asking you to return my daughter back to me. I understand my daughter was already became an American citizen, and I believed you love her very much too. I really appreciate your care for her and for adopting her. I hope you and I can make friends, and I just wanted my daughter to know that I never abandoned her or gave her up, and that I love her very much! I hope she is happy!”
The following essay is a plea to families with children from the Xuzhou, Jiangsu orphanage to try and locate the adoptive family that adopted the child profiled below. Beyond that, there are some important lessons adoptive families generally can take away from the experiences of this family:
1) Many children are transported long distances before being turned into an orphanage.
2) As we have seen in other instances, orphanages almost always work to prevent birth families from locating and retrieving children once they enter an orphanage.
3) This child was abandoned by her paternal family for one simple reason - she was a girl. Gender bias, especially among older citizens of China, still exists.
“I have been looking very hard for my child for three years, and I beg you to share my story to help me make my dreams to find my daughter come true!”
Recently, I received a link to a story posted on-line by a birth mother inside China, “mom of baby Jia Jia,” looking for her missing daughter.
After I got in touch with this birth mother, I was able to learn her story.
The birth mother is 29 years old. She lives in Tengzhou City in Shandong Province. In the first story that she posted on-line on February 17, 2016, she stated “I am an unfortunate woman.”
Below is her unfortunate story:
To continue reading, click here.
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Searching Birth Parents I
Back in the day (in other words, when our family first entered the Chinese adoption program), the conventional wisdom was that one of the positive attributes of the China program was the inability or indifference on the part of the birth parents inside China to ever "come knocking on my door." For decades, the only path for an adoptee to learn the identity of her birth parents was to search inside China, usually not successfully. But that paradigm is rapidly changing as birth parents inside China become more tech savvy, and the fear of discovery and punishment decreases. The result is that more and more birth families inside China are making efforts to locate their relinquished children. Over the next few months, Lan will share four stories of Chinese birth families who have begun the search themselves, using various means and avenues to learn the identities of their children's adoptive families.
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We will be printing data books for Zhengzhou and Luohe (Henan) within the next week, with Guangchang (Jiangxi) up after that. Chongqing (Chongqing) is now being printed.
We were instrumental in reuniting a set of twins from Tonggu, Jiangxi. You can read their story here:
We have reviwed Leslie Wang's new book on the China adopton program. Read our review on our blog or on Amazon.